The Tai Kwon Do of Humor
I wish, wish, wish I had known about defensive humor in junior high school! I mean who hasn’t tripped in the hallway and sprayed the entire cheerleading squad with books and papers?
Ha! So not true. And not very convincing either. So I never achieved my goal of looking down on people who did look put together. But even if I had (and if they had cared what I thought); they would have then needed to retaliate with their own one-upmanship for the sake of their dignity. It could have devolved into a whole fashion-based arms-race.
How much better it would have been to simply laugh at myself and my very human foibles. We all trip, spill, or splat at the most inopportune of moments. The first thing we want to do is to jump up and pretend that it didn’t happen, as the negative self-talk goes full blast, “What a klutz! I can’t believe you did that! How could you have?” and so on.
But with a few more years of life, most of us accept that that sort of thing does happen to us. Those by-standers feel for you. They want to help, but they don’t want to cause further embarrassment by drawing attention to the moment.
Should they pretend that they didn’t see it? Would it be kind to turn the other way? But what if you are actually injured? Then it would be cruel to ignore you.
In truth, witnesses feel just as awkward as the person who tripped.
What if you actually are injured? In that case, stay on the ground. Say, “You know, this wasn’t on my to-do list for today.” In this kind of situation, the tension is so high, that any light-hearted quip is hilarious.
Once you acknowledge the situation and convey that it is not a life-ending disaster, witnesses are overcome with relief and know what to do. They can help. They can laugh. They can forgive themselves for the last time they looked foolish.
Making the moment into a shared comedic experience is the Tai Kwon Do of humor. You’ll make everyone feel better.
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